I had quite an interesting talk with a member today about how his "friends" were routinely derailing his attempts at fitness.  How they wanted to party (which means staying up until 4:00am and getting drunk) and would be quite obnoxious to him when he says "no".

An example of "partying" which I loathe in all forms, quit while you’re young, get ahead.

So that got me really thinking, I wondered if this was a common thread?  Do lots of my friends who workout here deal with this same derision from their other "friends", be it semi-monthly bunco parties or "having" to go with friends for a drink to celebrate a promotion or whatever.


  1. A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts.
  2. A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.
  3. A person with whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; a comrade.
  4. One who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement: friends of the clean air movement.

Are your "friends" supporting, sympathizing or patronizing you?  Are they allied with you in your struggles?  Or do they hold you back?  Do they pressure you into curtailing plans to make yourself better?

Write a list, do this exercise.  I suggest you remove people from your life who aren’t your friends.  These people likely only serve themselves and waste your time, money and energy.


I’d like to get a discussion going, so please post back with comments, thoughts, reflections, cancellation letters 😉


Thanks Jesse